#FREAKYFRIDAY
Did you know that sex is great? Of course you did! There are many physical benefits of having a healthy sex life, increased energy, happy endorphins are released, Improvement in “skin appearance”( if you get my drift) decrease in anxiety, burning of calories, stress relief etc. After a sultry steamy round or 2 or 3... the sun shines a little brighter, the morning at work doesn’t drag as long,even your obnoxious neighbors don’t bother you as much. Yeah sex has that kind of magical unicorn power. I could go on and on. But in reality we’re not all getting in where we fit in as much as we need to. So what happens when you don’t have that release when you need it? Masturbating is always the safest option but somethings take two to tango, plastic can’t give you the human connection you need to really get the whole deal. I mean you can’t make breakfast in the morning for your little pocket rocket right? If you remember the episode from Sex in the City when Charlotte got a diagnosis from her OB/GYN that her vag was sad..hilarious but sadly common. A lack of sex, that chemical imbalance that is created when there’s a lack of can cause a sad puss. There I said it! It’s a proven fact that most women don’t have as much sex as they would like.
Lets face it there is power in sex! How powerful you ask? We like to think of sex as strictly physical, just our bodies. It’s so much deeper (no pun intended). Fun fact: having anxiety, mental illness, or depression can affect your sex drive? It can cause you to be reluctant, be embarrassed, or simply not in the mood. This is the time to get with your partner and create some intimacy outside the bedroom to get that thang poppin. Creating a safe space, can create a wonderful window of sexdual bliss. Take my advice, if your partner suffers from anxiety (are you listening, take notes), make them feel good without the sex, reassure them they are sexy, tell them you want them. Letting them know your true genuine feelings will surely create a more secure, relaxed environment when done correctly. Don’t be shy with it either, that unexpected sext might be a much needed pick me up, only when solicited though. Fellas please stop with unsolicited pics. Most ladies will screenshot you at laugh at you in the group chat later. I’m not saying sending meat mail is the answer to all the sex woes and anxieties, but it works for some. I personally don’t mind a sexy text or snap on my way to work, almost spilled my coffee one morning. In the back of your mind all day you’ll be thinking about it. These techniques are for people in relationships not the drive by situations, and friends with benefits we’ll get there in a minute.
Sex can be complicated if you’re a complicated thinker. A complicated thinker will analyze sex like its a school exam or something. Not the time nor the place to be fretting over every little thing. Do what you do, go for it. Easier said than done but at some point you gotta get your nerves together. Once this type of thinker lets go...you better hold on because it’s about to get bucking crazy. Letting go in a natural state, feeling free of judgements is a turn on. Being plus size, and having severe anxiety sex is my release, my happy place, and once I’m in the zone..not even gonna go there. It’s like Disney World and you get free Mickey ears and can ride all the rides with no waiting in line. That kind of joy.
Now lets get to this drive by situation formerly known as a booty call, friends with benefits. This is a dangerous set up for anyone who has mental illness or just anyone struggling with insecurities or lack of self esteem. It's all good for the moment, you got the juices flowing get in ..then boom it's over. No real connection more like a “I’ll holla at you next time” kind of deal . Not much to it right? Wrong if you’re like me, it takes a lot to be comfortable around someone in such an intimate way. Once you agree and let someone in your space there’s bound to be some attachment. Being attached to someone who doesn't share the same sentiment is a recipe for disaster! DON’T DO IT! This applies to exes especially. You will mind fuck yourself into thinking you’re still together therefore causing more damage in the end. I’m no expert but having relations with a past love hoping to rekindle the flame is a no go. Now if you’re both on the same page then that’s different. Just be sure you know what you’re setting yourself up for and you can handle it before you go there. The one thing about sex is..you can't take it back. Remember to be kind to your little lady, she'll thank you! Don't let your pu**y be sad. Buy her something if that's what it takes.
Here's some fun facts to lighten the mood courtesy of the “Medical Daily”:
53% of women are not having as much sex as they wish they were.
Sex can improve memory in women
Men have a G Spot
Men are more attracted to women when they are ovulating hence the theory of the after period phase of feeling like a dog in heat.
It’s easier to have an orgasm when you have socks on...something about warmth making it more comfortable . I’m not making this up.
Be safe and have fun ! Happy Freaky Friday!